How Anger and Hatred Could Change Your Life for the Better

November 19, 2007

It happens far too often; we let our unhappiness make us unhappy. We think that because we’re unhappy we can’t be hopeful, we can’t be joyful. We think that these emotions are incompatible. We think, If I were joyful, I’d already be happy. But that isn’t quite the case. You see, unhappiness is merely the warning light on your dashboard of life. It doesn’t force you to feel a certain way, it let’s you know that something in your life is out of whack and needs to be fixed. Because of this, unhappiness is actually one of the most powerful states that you can be in. This is both a blessing and a curse. You could wreak havoc on your life from a state of unhappiness, or you could utilize some of the most powerfully life-changing forces in our world: anger, hatred and determination.

Life is NOT Magnetized

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it as many times as it takes, there is no such thing as good and evil. Voldemort got it right:

?There is no good and evil, there is only power and those too weak to seek it.?

–Lord Voldemort

Good and evil are just words we made up to describe what we do and do not approve of. The same goes for words like Positive and Negative. So often you hear new-age gurus talking about positive and negative thoughts or forces. Those labels are all well and good, so long as you don’t take them too literally. Positive and negative are totally relative words and mean nothing in the overall workings of you life. What I mean by this is that you shouldn’t automatically shy away from those things that you have been told are negative.

Most of you read the first paragraph and the one preceding this and immediately thought I was barking mad. You’ve been told that anger and hatred aren’t good things, they are negative forces. This isn’t true. When misused, they can bring you unhappy events, thus their negative label. When used properly, however, they are the most effective way of pulling yourself out of your unhappy slump. The truth is that there are no positive or negative forces, there are only forces. This is just like physics class. There is only force and which way it works, for your betterment or detriment, depends on you, the observer. The more powerful the force, the more creative it is and anger and hatred are two of the most powerful forces in the universe.

The Power to Change

You see, there is no such thing as creation and destruction, there is only creation. The destruction of something old is only the creation of something new. This means that there are no destructive powers, they are all creative. Anger and hatred are very powerfully creative but, as Peter Parker told me when I was a kid, with great power comes great responsibility. You can get caught up in the ?Dark Side? of these forces and really loose yourself to them, creating the very things you fear most, or you can control them and use them to empower yourself to create something better. It takes a lot of inner strength and more than a little courage, but it can change your life.

But Isn’t it Better to Create Happily?

Yes, that’s true, it is always best to be happy and to create your world out of a force that makes you feel good, but sometimes that isn’t always possible. It is a myth that you can be happy all the time. No one has ever done it, nor would it be particularly helpful to do so. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we feel so utterly hopeless that all we wish to do is collapse and stop trying. When you’re feeling overwhelmed and unhappy with your life, there doesn’t seem to be any hope of putting yourself into a better mood, but that’s what so many people will tell you to do. They tell you that to create a happier circumstance you must make yourself feel happier. This is akin to saying that the only way to get rid of a headache is to make the pain in your head go away; it may be true, but that doesn’t make it helpful. If you are unhappy, joy might seem so far out of your grasp that it might as well not exist at all. If you can’t get to joy, reach for a power that is within your grasp. It is when you find yourself in this feeling of overwhelmed unhappiness that you must reach out for a strong force of change. Can’t find happiness? Find anger!

Anger is Good. Hatred is Good.

The above statement is provided that you’re angry at and hate the proper things. Hating people is not good. Hating yourself is not good. Hating your situation is excellent. It’s when you get angry at your situation that you begin to completely redesign your life. Many people will tell you that you must accept the situation you have in order to create something better. This is true, only if you are mostly happy in your life. If your life is mostly despair, acceptance of reality will only make you feel worse and thus continue to create what you already have. Instead of trying to feel happier, instead of breaking down, find the power within yourself to do something about it. Find the anger, find the hatred of the situation you are in, and from there find the determination to do something about it.

These forces are like a ladder that takes you from fear and despair to happiness and bliss. You may start out with anger and hatred, but those will soon lead you into determination. Once you are determined to make a change, soon you will find the creativity and the excitement to see your plans through. And the better life gets, the better you feel and the better your creations feel. Eventually you will move from anger and hatred of your situation to happiness and joy as you watch it unfold before you.

Anger is good. Hatred is good. They are the first steps on the road to making something happen. Wallowing in despair only keeps your focus on your current reality and therefore will continue to create your current reality. It is a static change that occurs. Putting an emotion as strong as anger or hatred behind your desires will keep you from focusing on your current reality and shift your focus onto what you wish to achieve. Anger will give you a goal. You denounce where you are and present yourself with a goal toward which you can work.

If You Are One of the Unhappy

Embrace your anger. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling unhappy, don’t tell yourself that you’re supposed to feel better. Remember that you feel the way you do for a reason, it’s telling you that something is wrong. Instead of trying to treat the symptom of unhappiness, reach for a cure to your real problem. Get mad at your situation. Denounce where you are and work yourself into a frenzy over the change that you are going to create. Don’t run from resentment or hatred, shift them into something healthier and use them to your advantage. Everything is creative. Your success lies in how you choose to use your creative powers.

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