Finding Balance in Your Life

July 2, 2007

Whether it?s a fine line between our personal and professional lives or between our friends and family, people often have a lot of troubles trying to find balance in their lives. We try so hard to find balance in our lives, without ever realizing that balance isn?t at all conducive to growth. There is no such thing as balance in the working of the universe. There is only synchronicity; harmony. We?ve all seen the Yin-Yang symbols that people wear on necklaces or carry in other meaningful ways. We?ve seen it in so many different places and ways that it has ceased to have meaning to us. The symbol represents the two opposing forces of yin and yang coexisting and creating our worldly experience through a balance of light and dark. The symbol suggests that balance must be present in the universe for our experience to be fulfilled. The universe however, doesn?t exist on balance, but on the principle of synchronicity.

Finding balance means that two opposing forces must coexist equally, that you must have as much light as you have dark for there to be peace. It?s a great idea in theory, but in practice it just doesn?t work, and we can see that very clearly when we look at our average day. If we expect to be ?at peace? we must learn to find balance in all aspects of our lives, but that isn?t truly possible. To create balance between our physical and mental capabilities we?d have to spend an hour at the gym for every hour we spent reading. We?d have to spend eight hours doing no work for every eight hours we spend at work. If we visit with friends for two hours, we?d have to be all alone for a further two hours to create a balance. And here?s the real kicker: if we spent half the day awake, we?d also have to spend half the day asleep.

You see, balance isn’t dynamic. It’s static. It’s placid.

What we must seek to create in our lives is synergy, or synchronicity, the idea of many things working toward one common goal. Our bodies already know this method of living and use it with great success every minute of our lives. As you sit at your computer right now your body is in the process of living in a synchronistic manner. Your body doesn?t find a balance of its processes; it creates a system of synergy. Millions of different cells are doing millions of different jobs for one, all-encompassing goal: to keep you alive. Your heart cells are working to pump blood, while the cells in your scalp work toward growing your hair. The heart cells may be working hard, but that doesn?t mean your scalp cells have to work at the same rate. If they worked in balance you?d have ridiculous amounts of hair, or a very low heartbeat.

The idea of being able to find harmony within the balancing of two opposing forces or concepts just doesn?t pan out. Balance is useless and, what?s more, you already knew that! You already knew balance wasn?t the way to find peace in your life, because balance means stagnation. If two opposing forces balance with each other, they cancel one another out and leave behind an empty void. That?s not what you want in your life, that?s not what you want for yourself. You want improvement, you want change, otherwise you wouldn?t be here reading this. Balance won?t give you change, it will give you a stalemate, it will give you stagnation.

Give up forever the idea of balancing the good things and the bad things, that won?t help you. What will help you is to decide what the most important goal in your life is at this moment and get every fiber of your being pulling towards that one objective. If you want to make more money at your job, but you know that you need to have more knowledge than you do now, that you need to be in better shape so you can have more energy, and that you need to create more time you can devote to these endeavors, don?t start working toward all of those things at once. Don?t come to the conclusion that you must spend eight hours with your family for every eight hours you spend at work. Don?t think that you must exercise one hour for every hour you spend reading something new. Life doesn?t work that way. If you want to work toward the goal of making more money at your job and you know you must improve your fitness, knowledge and time management to make that happen, then work on all of those things in a synchronistic way. Work a little on your fitness every day, work a little on gaining some knowledge every day, and make a little more time every day.

Trying to change every aspect of your life at once will never work. Don?t doom yourself to failure by thinking that you must be accomplishing all of your goals at the same rate. Don?t worry so much about your minor goals; the building-block-goals that make up your larger objectives. Don?t worry about trying to achieve them at the same rates. That will never happen. Work toward your all-encompassing desires, focusing a little energy each day toward all of your building-block-goals. Sometimes you?ll put more energy and time into your fitness. Sometimes you put more energy and time into gaining more knowledge. That?s okay, we?re not looking to create balance, we?re looking to create harmony; synchronicity; synergy; all your efforts moving together, working toward one common goal.

Balance is nothing. Synchronicity is everything.

Posted in Goal Setting, Metaphysics, Self Improvement, Synchronicity